The Cemetery Girls

Inspired by OLWG#421 prompt- Now I have a new goal

Last Halloween, I was out visiting my Granddaughter for the holiday.

On my trips to see her, I take her with me to cemeteries around Fox Lake so that I can stock up on Cemetery Pictures for my blog- when she was a toddler she thought that monsters lived in the cemetery.

I explained to her that monsters don’t live in cemeteries ( I bit my tongue to keep from saying they live under her bed and in her basement too) but that people who have died do.

” Are they sleeping?” she asked me once.

No, I told her. They are dead.

” Oh. ” she said. ” But they’re just people, right?”

” Absolutely” I assured her.

Photo By : A.M. Moscoso
Oakwood Cemetery
Beaver Dam, WI
October 2023

Last year we went to the cemetery where members of Jemma’s   maternal side of the family have been laid to rest.

She had asked my son, before I got there to show her where a specific grave was and she was eager to share it with me on  our outing.

“Lola ” ( Filipino kids call their Grandmothers “Lola” ) she said when we got to a sunny grave sight at the fence line, ” Meet my Great Grandparents ”

Jemma visiting her Great Grandparents:
Photo A.M. Moscoso
Saint Mary’s Cemetery
“Annunciation Cemetery”
Fox Lake Wisconsin, USA

She looked up at me expectantly, she was wearing her Halloween dress, her favorite jacket and her hair was loose. She was relaxed because Cemetery Exploration is our thing. But it was that look that captured my attention- she looked like she knew for sure with every fiber in her body that I would know what to say, how to act.

I clicked a picture of her without really looking at the shot as I took it because I was focused on the graves.

” Hello Myra and John. It’s very, very nice to meet you. I’m Anita, I’m Jemma’s Grandma. I hope you have a Happy Halloween.”

Jemma was beaming.

Apparently I was being tested and I had passed with flying colors.

” Come on Lola, I can show you more people!”

And she did.

Photo A.M. Moscoso
Saint Mary’s Cemetery
“Annunciation Cemetery”
Fox Lake Wisconsin, USA

 

Story Time

I like the Summer for one reason and one reason alone: During the summer people oil themselves up and then they go out into the Sun and they mummify themselves for our ( well, my ) edification.

A little sand, a little sun and no water and that’s how mummies were created.  I know this much because I am a archaeologist nerd, but there is a big difference between experiencing and just reading about experiences.

Even though I had the privilege of being  a mortician’s apprentice and even though I learned the art of embalming, I never got the chance to learn about mummification so I am grateful for this opportunity.

On top of that, I hate Summer and I think people who love it are odd.

I love winter because it is dark, it is quiet and each winter evening is full of mystery and promise and ghosts.

Lots of them.

Winter (Hiver, ou le Loup dans la Neige)
Félix Bracquemondlate 19th century – early 20th century

Martie Widing

Inspired by : OLWG#421 Prompt- Pacing my cage

My name is  Martie Widing and I ride the same train to work every single day.

I sit near the door and I have read the emergency exit  instructions over and over again – if you measured the time I have spent  reading the emergency exit poster by  miles instead of time it would probably add up to about  a thousand miles.

Sometimes at night, just before I fall asleep I see  the Emergency Exit Poster etched inside of my eyelids and for some reason it brings me a little comfort in the same way turning  my  pillow over to the ‘cool side’  does when the day was hot, or maybe a little too long.

Besides learning that reading the same sign over and over again has a benefit of sorts, I have also discovered that  by sitting in the same spot I  am being  treated to the sight  of  the backs of countless necks- all of them bowed over their phones and if nothing is in the way of that exposed flesh, I can see little goosebumps pop up on those necks just after the doors slide open and cool, sometimes cold air rushes in and passes through the car. I don’t know why I am so fascinated by this small thing but I am.

I have come to the point where I now have to resist the urge  to reach out and smooth the bumps down on my fellow commuter’s necks by chewing on the nail on my pinky finger, it hurts when I do that because of the hangnails that have bloomed around my nail like weeds- a few of them are infected I’m sorry to say.

I want to be honest with you, I don’t want to be a creep- I don’t want to reach out and touch some stranger’s neck just because I feel like it.

The thing is,  I ride the train a lot and I am thinking that one of these days I’ll forget myself and  my curiosity will get the better of me.

Just in case it does, I have purchased a boning knife with a blue handle and I will keep it in my backpack for that moment when chewing on my pinky finger nail can’t stop me from reaching out and smoothing those fleshy bumps down.

I Know You

Daily Writing Prompt: What fears have you overcome and how?

Andrew Wyeth, Perpetual Care, 1961,

When I was in my early 20’s I had developed severe- crippling anxiety attacks.

When I had these attacks, I felt like I was going to have a heart attack and that I was going to die.

The thing is, I wasn’t afraid of having a heart attack ( even though it felt like my heart was going to bust out of my rib cage like the monster in ” Alien ” ) what scared me the most was the death and dying  thoughts  that were pounding their way into my school and making it so that I could not breathe.

And then for some reason, after years of going through this I got it into my head that if I could recognize death and what it did- what it looked like- that I would know that was NOT what was happening to me and I wouldn’t be scared anymore.

So, I read books like Vampires, burial, and death : folklore and reality by Barber, Paul. I read books on embalming, I read books on forensics. I read books on funeral customs and I’m not sure why-cannibals. When I look back at the books I read and the notes I took, the amount of work I put into this was breathtaking.

What I was doing, I learned later,  was something called Immersion Therapy- lucky for me, it worked.

After I made it my business to get to know my Fear- aka The Grim Reaper- not only did I never have attacks that bad again- I had learned enough to land a job in a Funeral Home and that body  ( see what I did there? ) of knowledge I had gained  added spice to my writing- in my stories Death isn’t some abstract thing draped in black- it a real entity that people know – like a next door neighbor or the guy you see walking his dog at the same time every day and that for better or worse you can confront it.

Sometimes I still do have anxiety attacks. But the attacks nibble at the edges of my mind and when it happens the thought that I’m not going to die never enters my head and when it’s over I pat myself on the back.

I deserve it.

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